This page is basic information you can use to ask yourself if you are in an abusive relationship. If you can relate to three or more facts I suggest you contact us or a crisis line in your area and get help. Love should never hurt...
Examples of abuse include:
This is the cycle of violence that often repeats over and over again. Check to see if your relationship follows this pattern Incident Tension Building Making-Up Calm
and then it starts all over again...a week..a month or a year from now. Each incident becoming more violent than the last.
Self Care...Everyone should do it!!!! But especially If you suffered from abuse or have been a witness to violence or extreme lost we feel you need to take extra steps to avoid stress and unreleased grief and pain in the body from causing dis-ease in the body. We suggest at least three of the following as ongoing or as needed things you can do to take excellent care of yourself. *Meditation *Yoga *Exercise at a Gym *Explore Nature *Herbal Baths *Spa Treatments *Facials *Make Over *Therapy *Eat fresh, raw, and organic food at least once a day *spend quality time with people who make you laugh and smile Create a self care plan: Commit to do one thing a day that is selfishly just for you Commit to do one thing a week alone/ with friends/ with family (you enjoy) Commit to do something healthy for your body/ spirit Commit to help someone you know or a complete stranger Volunteer somewhere Create a daily mantra (something positive that you say over and over again in your head) | Self Care on a low - to - no - budget Accupunture: look for places that take medical if you have it. In Oakland there is a place to get free Acupuncture every month look that up to and once I find information on this I will post it. Look for Chinese Medicine Schools, they offer low pay services as well. *Free Exercise: you can check out yoga and other exercise dvd's from your local library or running/ jogging /walking/dancing/biking/hiking Create spa day at home or with friends and trade off finger nail painting, foot rubs and massages *Restful sleep/healing body bath recipe 1 1/2 cup epsom salt (Dollar Store) 2 -3 bags of camomile tea (any food store) 3 drops sweet smelling body oil (Dollar store) 3 caps full of Bubble bath (Dollar Store) draw the bath, light a candle, pray to heal your body and soak for at least 20 min in silence. Get out dry off and go to bed. *Organic food is expensive but get it when you can, fresh is always better than frozen or canned organic or not. |
